死之前想去的地方之二
都在愛爾蘭
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最近一直作為工作、閱讀。。。的背景音樂
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The most influential book in my life:
在我人生最挫敗的時候，我遇到了這本書。
它成為了我的諾亞方舟。
Only you know what you value most,
who you want to share your life with,
what kind of environment you want to be in,
and ultimately how to make the best choices to bring those things about.
(只有你知道你最看重什麼，
你願意與誰共度人生，
你想要什麼樣的環境，
只有你能最終做出最好的決定，
盡最大可能實現這一切。）
Get rid of irrelevant details so that essential things
and the relationships between them stand out.
"Any damn fool can make it complex.
It takes a genius to make it simple."
（撇掉無關細節， 讓重要因素及其相互關係呈現出來。
“每個傻子都能把事情複雜化，只有天才才能把事情簡單化。”）
Knowing how one is wired is necessary first step on any life journey.
It doesn't matter what you do with your life,
as long as you are doing what is consistent with your nature and your aspirations.
（在任何生命歷程中，了解人的特性都是必要的第一步。
你做什麼並不重要，只要你做的符合自己的個性和人生理想。）
I can assure you that,
beyond a basic level,
there is no correlation between happiness levels and conventional markers of success.
A carpenter who derives his deepest satisfaction from working with wood
can easily have a life as good or better than the president of the United States.
（我可以明確地説，
在基本生活線之上，
幸福水平和常規的成功標準之間沒有任何聯繫。
一個能從木工中得到內心滿足的木匠，
能輕鬆擁有和美國總統一樣美好甚至比美國總統更好的生活。）
Everyone has strengths and weaknesses,
and everyone has an important role to play in life.
Nature made everything and everyone for a purpose.
The courage that's needed the most isn't the kind that drives you to prevail over others,
but the kind that allows you to be true to your truest self,
no matter what other people want you to be.
（人人都有長處和短處，
人人都能在生活中扮演重要角色。
大自然塑造萬事萬物皆有目的。
你最需要的勇氣不是驅使你戰勝別人的勇氣，
而是不管其他人對你有何期望，
你始終堅持做最真實的自我的勇氣。）
Whatever circumstances life brings you,
you will be more likely to succeed and find happiness
if you take responsibility for making your decisions well
instead of complaining about things being beyond your control.
Psychologists call this having an "internal locus of control,"
people who have it outperform those who don't.
（不管在生活中遇到什麼情況，
如果你能負起責任，進行良好的決策，
而不是抱怨你無法控制的東西，
你將更有可能成功並找到幸福。
心理學家稱此為擁有“內控點”。
擁有“內控點”的人比其他人做得更好。）
So don't worry about whether you like your situation or not.
Life doesn't give a damn about what you like.
It's up to you to connect what you want with what you need to do to get it
and then find the courage to carry it through.
（不要為喜不喜歡自己的處境擔憂。
生活根本不關心你喜歡什麼。
你必須根據自己的願望找到實現願望的途徑，
然後鼓起勇氣堅持下去。）
Watching people struggle and having others watch you struggle
can elicit all kinds of ego-driven emotions
such as sympathy, pity, embarrassment, anger, or defensiveness.
You need to get over all that and stop seeing struggling as something negative.
（看別人如何苦拼，讓別人看你如何苦拼，會引發各種自我情緒。
如同情、憐憫、難堪、憤怒、戒備等。
你需要克服這一切，不再把苦拼視為負面的東西。）
Most of life's greatest opportunities come out of moments of struggle;
it's up to you to make the most of these tests of creativity and character.
（人一生最好的機會大多數來自苦拼的經歷。
苦拼是對人的創造性和個性的考驗，
你應該從這些考驗中挖掘出最大的價值。）
Don't avoid confronting problems because they are rooted in harsh realities that are unpleasant to look at.
（不要逃避問題，因為問題根植於看起來並不美好的殘酷現實。）
Thinking about problems that are difficult to solve may make you anxious,
but not thinking about them (and hence not dealing with them)
should make you more anxious still.
When a problem stems from your own lack of talent or skill,
most people feel shame.
Get over it.
Acknowledging your weaknesses is not the same as surrendering to them.
It's the first step toward overcoming them.
The pains you are feeling are "growing pains"
that will test your character and reward you as you push through them.
（思考難以解決的問題也許會讓你焦慮，
但不思考（因此不嘗試解決）肯定會讓你更焦慮。
當問題但原因是自身缺乏某種天賦或技能時。
大多數人會感到羞愧。
克服這種羞愧。
承認你的弱點並不是向弱點投降，而是克服弱點的第一步。
你感到的痛苦是“成長的痛苦”，
它將考驗你的個性，
當你忍痛前行時給你回報。）
